Once we understand that the best place to BE at home is within ourselves and that we can be at home whenever and wherever we are, we just need to practice actually doing it. For today, I want to share a quick tip for staying at home within when distractions arise.
The term being at home is really about inner peace. Somehow “being at home” sounds a bit more attainable than inner peace, kind of like a stepping stone to the real deal. Plenty of being at home within will take us toward inner peace…where else would it lead?! The path toward peace begins with quieting the mind. There are many stages and paths and practices that help with quieting the mind. Different things work for different people. I want to just give a quick tip today that might help us all stay home well this week.
Let’s identify a few of the many things that take us from our true home and fill our mind with noise:
- Resisting situations, wishing things were different
- Thinking about the future and what may happen
- Wishing something hadn’t happened
- Being annoyed
- Stress in general
To be clear, we are meant to live a peaceful life and feel at home within ourselves all the time. So, anytime we are not experiencing utter peace, we have left our rightful home and chosen fear instead. Most people live in constant stress, so they may be surprised to hear that what many consider to be “normal” stress is actually not living at all and a complete waste of energy.
Knowing our home is within we can use our bodies to anchor us there. A little thing I like to do throughout the day when I feel my mind stray or stress begin to take hold is to simply shift my attention towards some part of my body. If I am walking when I notice the mind activity, I simply change the thought to “I am home” and feel my foot hit the ground or floor with my fullest attention, then I keep my attention there for my next steps. Repeating the “I am home” thought again, I then notice more of my body. I soon notice my heart feel good and a smile always comes to my face; when you stop to notice your heart feel good, it is impossible not to smile (try it). As you keep walking, you find the quiet mind and peace again. If I were doing the dishes or writing when my mind went towards noise, I would bring my attention to my hands and do the same thought replacement and feel my heart relax and inevitably feel a smile on my face. It really works and can bring you right to where you are most at home…in joy. You can use an arm movement, notice your fingers, stretch your neck or simply stand still…anchor yourself anywhere in your body and out of your mind…it will bring the peace of being at home within.
On this wonderful Wednesday, I just have to say…I wouldn’t wish happiness on anyone. That may sound strange, let me explain. To me, happiness means something has happened that brought it and inevitably it swings to the opposite at some point. What I wish for everyone is true peace that comes from within. I wish it for you with all my heart! Try this little tip to anchor your attention in your body and you will love how it feels to quickly and effectively quiet the mind and all the trouble it likes to create. When I first started watching my thoughts years ago, I remember I would often find myself counting my steps. It was as if my mind was so used to constant noise that it couldn’t just be quiet, it had to count. It was okay, I just went around counting steps and stairs…it passed. The quiet is where life is at…I am so grateful for the quiet.
I hope this little tip helps you enjoy the quiet. I am sending you love and peace!