This post is one of my favorites. When I originally posted it, my little family had a magnificently present weekend. This weekend is a celebratory one at our house, so I wanted to re-read it myself and send it out in love to bless your weekend as well. Share it with your loved ones to bless their weekend too! Wishing you the ability to dwell in the joy found in presence! Happy everything!
“The ego’s greatest enemy is the present moment, which is to say,
life itself.” –Eckhart Tolle
We can all agree that it would be wonderful to have the weekends last longer. Lets try it this weekend. It is a good idea (or the most important thing in life…depending on how you look at it) to practice living in the moment whenever you can. We all hear the buzz on it and try to do it at whatever stage in our journey we are at, maybe we can kick it up a notch this weekend. Practicing presence can take the time out of the weekend and make it last so much longer. It can bring more joy and peace to us and bless everyone and everything around us.
Ego work is required for true growth. You can’t battle your ego, it will just grow with the extra attention and even if you do seem to win for a bit, it sneaks in the backdoor and grows itself by assuming the new identity of the one with the smallest ego and the most presence. I want to use Live What You Know to share and try little ways of chipping away at the ego. I believe that you can shrink your ego simply by turning the other way – towards love. This weekend, lets turn completely towards the greatest enemy of the ego – the present moment. In doing so, we will access Love and Life. Everything will feel better and time will cease to exist, hence a longer weekend. I know that true presence doesn’t know it’s the weekend…but, since our thinking mind does love a weekend, lets just give it a try! Yay!
Wherever you are in your path of discovery, you can always improve your ability to access stillness in the present moment. You may be simply noticing the silence between the words in a conversation or adding a breath before you speak or you may be meditating for two hours every morning. We are all at the perfect place in our journey! I am not an expert on these things but I have been profoundly interested in adding more present moment awareness since I heard about it seven years ago. I have read and heard many of the experts and masters on the subject and I want to share their wisdom in little doses here whenever I can, both for bringing more peace and joy to others and also to keep myself in the spirit of growth and presence.
Knowing this stuff because I read it and heard it from the masters and living it are, of course, two different things, hence the whole Live What You Know focus. To practice truly living what I know about presence this weekend, here are some helpful little tips I would give myself (and you if you’re open to the idea):
- Meditate first thing in the morning – whatever skill level you are at, even one minute to touch stillness to feel what it is like to return to it throughout the day.
- Pray – set your intention for presence and awareness, ask for help to stay in that vibration and truly experience each moment in awareness rather than mind activity.
- Listen – use listening for a presence practice. Truly listen whenever anyone is speaking. You can keep a present energy in the background and feel that while you listen, let any thoughts that try to creep in just float by. Don’t think about what you are going to say next, just listen without thinking and still feel some presence. Don’t give all your presence away while listening, just enough to listen well and stay present. Great practice – changes how you experience yourself and others…and everything.
- Breath – add more breath all the time. It’s not really adding breath, because you’re already breathing, its noticing your breath. Noticing one breath before you speak can take you from reactionary living to present living. It is a great practice to remain present and be. Reactions are not present, they do not have the power of presence behind them. Reactions to what others say and do give your power of presence away. One breath to bring you to presence before reacting or speaking can change everything. It’s a great way to take the ego out of your interactions.
- Joyful Living – get all the way into the moment and find the joy there. It is there! I promise. Even if it’s tying your kids shoe or doing the dishes, there is something to enjoy. You can look your kid right in the eye and get a giggle and a connection as you tie their shoes or you can appreciate the way the water feels on your hands and the sunlight comes in the window as you do the dishes. Whatever you do, the joy is there somewhere. Isn’t it awesome that it was designed this way. Do the joy experiment all weekend, you’ll find it.
- Doing Meditations – You can turn anything into a meditation. You just pick what it is and practice staying completely present the whole time. It may be sorting the laundry, vacuuming the living room or brewing a cup of tea. It may be a walk or writing a poem. You truly can turn anything you do into a meditation. Let any thoughts float by, you are the sky and the thoughts are the clouds – they pass. Don’t jump on any of the clouds (thoughts), don’t resist them either, just watch them float by and your peace of mind increase. This is also a great way to start watching your thoughts without being attached to them – they’re just thoughts…only the power you give them or don’t give them makes them what they are.
- No waiting – waiting is awful. If you find yourself in the situation where it seems like you’re waiting for something – a long line or the time for your next event, etc., just don’t do it. BE instead of waiting. Enjoy the present moment and realize the perfection in it as it is. Realize that you do not need to add anything to it and life will not start once you are done waiting. Life is already happening, waiting takes you out of it. Not waiting is a great practice, you can focus on the breath or smile or just be and observe without adding a bunch of thoughts to it. Waiting gives time so much power and takes you right out of the present.
- Try something new – get into the unfamiliar. It brings a heightened focus to what you’re doing and takes you out of the thinking mind. Even if you just cook a new recipe that challenges you or take a walk on a new path, anything that is new and unfamiliar will bring more presence. Simple excitements in the little things are the best!
- Create – write, draw, color a picture, anything creative. Releasing your creative energy and making something in presence is like offering a prayer. The still place inside you is incredibly creative, touch it and be with it and see what happens. Even just looking up how to draw something on the computer and following along can be a great experience if you’re not super confident in your artistic abilities. Just make something, even a fabulous meal is a creative endeavor. Touch the joy of creating!
- Look without labeling – practice looking at the world around you without the lens of judgement. Try to let go of labeling good or bad or even naming everything. Even on a drive in the car, just be with all the things you see going by, you can experience the world in a whole new way without labeling what you see. You can gain a lot of energy too because all the labeling we do is exhausting, just being and seeing without labeling can be a really comforting feeling and can bring us to a heightened sense of awareness and presence.
- Embrace the uncomfortable – don’t turn away from feeling uncomfortable. Often we feel a little uncomfortable and we cover it up quickly with one distraction after another. Don’t resist the uncomfortable feeling, sit with it a minute in silence and watch it transform into joy! It will! The joy is in the stillness!
- Smile – I love the simple practice of smiling. When you truly feel your genuine smile, it does something to your heart. You feel it deep in your heart and it changes how you see everything. Smile a lot and smile at everyone and everything!
Okay, that is my incomplete list of some tips that may help us have more joy and presence this weekend. We may be able to have an ego-free weekend if we are doing all of this stuff. Wouldn’t that be lovely! Remember, presence isn’t something we can get better at later or when we’re more evolved. The only time to get better at presence is NOW. Flexing this skill and embracing these ideas can only have positive implications for the effects on our weekdays! But, we will deal with that in that moment.
I just have to take a moment to thank you for reading this! I am so very grateful for this platform and opportunity to share myself and encourage myself and others in this way. I am just getting started and I can already feel the difference in my life! I am so very grateful to you for taking the time to read my words from the heart…it is my true to desire to help us all live with more peace and joy! I am also profoundly grateful for connecting with others who find these topics meaningful! Thank you!
I send this with so much love! I think I will read it several times this weekend to help me stay in the moment too! I hope it helps you find more peace, joy and love!