Live What You Know

Learn, Grow, Accept, Appreciate, Realize, Love…Truly Live It All! Make Every Day A Masterpiece and Live Each Moment In Joy! —or— You are Divine. You are All. We are One. Let us Be still. Let us Listen with an open heart. Let us Live what we hear. Let us Love with All of our heart. BE. YOU. I AM. —or— wherever you're at and growing from now.

Tag: Authenticity

Wholeheartedly Living Your Dreams — While Fearlessly Co-Creating Even More

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I adore the view from my morning reading chair!

I am so grateful for the ritual that begins the gift called today each weekday in our house. On this day, I felt the warm embrace of a loving universe as I read with my two little ones reading nearby. So good for the soul…my babies happily enjoying literature as a daily habit, my puppy content in my lap, a sweet phone call from my dear husband wishing me a happy day right in the middle of the experience and so many great lessons in literature for me to devour and contemplate. There I sit with a heart full of gratitude as I thoroughly enjoy every minute of it.

The words, images and messages on my chosen cups this day provide a wonderful balanced blessing. I love dreaming big. I have many more things I can easily see myself doing and truly feel called to accomplish in the years to come. Sometimes I get impatient with myself and dream of doing more now or feeling as though I must push harder to make things happen sooner. But, the truth about dreams is that I am already living many big ones now. I must feel what is around me now as deeply as I feel the urge to lay the foundation to create future dreams to come.

A morning reading ritual doesn’t just happen, it is the fruit of many of my dreams that have already come true. Some dreams I had since I was a little girl and some I didn’t even know I wanted until I was in the middle of creating them in unknown territories completely out of my comfort zone. Co-creating these so-called circumstances I find myself in now was no coincidence; they didn’t just happen to me. We can always look around us and be sure that whatever Life we see and feel we are living—we made it so. We create our reality. From the largest to the tiniest detail, we co-created it all and we decide how long we keep the dream alive and/or when we create new ones…big and small. We truly live all that we know and can only dream up that which we truly believe and are ready to receive.

So, the other day I was making the kids’ sandwiches while they finished their morning studies. I had just completed another module in the course I’m taking about creating a conscious business or igniting my visionary ignition switch. All the wonderful information I had just been given about publishing, self-publishing, building a platform and much more was swirling around in my head. I am really enjoying the course and feeling very inspired by it. I also feel a bit pressured by it at times or in need of reminding myself that there is plenty of time and not to worry about it or let it stress me out (the course teachers do a great job of reminding us about this too). It is all wonderful information that will be there for me when I’m ready to use it. A good friend once shared a daily mantra she uses to calm herself. She simply says, “I have plenty of time. I have all the time I need.” I like this mantra. I’ve been pulling it out and using it again lately. Thank you Jennifer.

Anyway, I had a distinct moment while spreading Vegenaise on the kids’ sandwiches. I sort of snapped out of the swirling head stuff. It was interesting because I was truly inspired and feeling quite grateful for the discussion about my passions I had just enjoyed listening to. I know I am meant to hear this great information and I know it will bless me in many ways over the years to come as I navigate my journey through all the things I feel called to do. But, as I looked down at the kids’ four pieces of bread, it hit me how truly great it is to make their sandwiches. I was overtaken with gratitude that they were there in the next room and would enjoy lunchtime with me very soon. I loved thinking of our morning studies and the writing workshop we would do together in the afternoon.

It occurred to me that I could put lots of pressure on myself to get a platform built, get a brand going, figure out how I want to publish, find ways to reach more people, etc. and be sorry if I don’t balance it just right. I could spend the next few years really focusing on that and making it happen. It may keep me so busy that I forget to enjoy making the sandwiches. Then, in a few years when the kids may not be around as much, I could have all those things necessary to pursue my dreams, but I would really really miss making their sandwiches. I may long for the days when I used to do that if I’m not truly present and really indulge in it now. Being here now and somewhere else later is always the way. I just need to balance living the dream and creating the new ones. I have to believe it can be done. I can do it well in peace with Divine guidance and timing if I listen well from my heart. Not from my head.

I remembered with love the days when the kids were learning to write the alphabet. They would sit at the kitchen counter waiting for their sandwiches and I would write letters in mustard on their bread for them to guess. Oh, how that seems like yesterday and a lifetime ago at the same time. When was the last day we did that? How did it stop? Oh, how fun that was! They even asked for that recently and I think I was “too busy” to do it just then. Argh!

Anyway, there is no answer to the exact formula for following dreams. Our soul knows why we’re here and if we let our soul drive our life more than our head, it will work out just fine. All things can and do happen at the perfect time. Of course, balance, trust and listening to the Divine is the answer to everything. So, I finished up making lunch and allowed a space in my experience there in the kitchen where I felt thrilled by the memories of mustard letters, gratitude for the experience of making sandwiches the kids still love to eat with me on this day and comforted by the dreams that live and grow in my heart and the code of my soul each day to keep me inspired through many more versions of me and my day-to-day life to come.

The image above of Snoopy and Woodstock (or Wubberbock as my son called him for years and we still fondly say today) dreaming together is such a thing of beauty. Two unlikely friends, dreamed up and shared from one man’s imagination with so many…what a gift! I see love and acceptance shining all around them, blue skies and possibility everywhere, what a wonderful world this can be and so much more. I love how Snoopy and Wubberbock just go about their business doing what feels good to them at that moment in time. Perhaps that is where the balance finds us.

The beautiful words that held my coffee this day remind me of how our soul might advise us if it could gently remind us where we come from, who we are and why we are really here. May we feel the blessing of truly being here and feeling the miracle that it really is.

May we dream big…while we dwell in a state of awakened
realization of the dreams we’ve already created.

We can balance both.
Love will show us how!

Sending you love and joy on this day and all the days to come!

Heart Wide Open!

Marilyn

This quote makes me smile!
It makes my heart feel warm and relaxed.
It connects me to my soul.
It feels like peace.
It feels like freedom.

Free to be me.
Free to love others just as they are.
Free to embrace the ridiculous.
Free to be ridiculous.
Free to drop the labels and just Be.

You never know who might say something that swings your heart wide open. Why not listen with wide open hearts today?

Wishing you a day filled with laughter, love, smiles, curiosity, kindness, joy, meaning and plenty of ridiculousness! Sending you peace and joy today and always!

Try New Things!

Try old things in new ways!
Let Life guide you!
Courageously go with It!

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Familiar sayings and quotes we all know. May we experience them with open hearts and allow them to bless us in new ways today!

Over the years I’ve jumped head first into new things with no experience, ample reasons not to try, plenty of fear of whatever it was and a more than sufficient list of excuses if I had wanted to use them instead. At the same time (and not without years of seeking with heartfelt intention) I had a strong connection with my inner voice, a willingness to follow my heart wherever it may lead, an unending belief in miracles and a willingness to be open to whatever Life was showing me without labels, attachments or judgements. Of course, my awesome team at home (designed and born from blessings received with heartfelt intention) who believe in me fiercely and look at me with perspective that blesses me helps a great deal; they always provide unending amounts of acceptance, encouragement and support as they stretch out their open hands to walk with me through anything and in any direction. Their love and the way we approach Life together makes everything possible. I am so grateful!

Life is now pushing me towards going for bigger dreams. It is exciting and peaceful at the same time. It could easily be scary if I decided to look in the direction of fear. I’ve learned how to Listen to Life a bit more consistently and it feels good. These days, the thought-identified me or the one who believes the silly things our minds try to tell us sometimes, is in the driver’s seat much less often and for much shorter distances than it sometimes has been before. That doesn’t mean I always remember how to Listen the way my soul has been teaching me…just more often than yesterday…each yesterday, as they come. In my experience, it feels a bit different than I may have thought to Listen with a capital L as a regular practice. Maybe it’s personal for each of us, or maybe quite similar. I’ve had various ways of doing it over the years. Right now, it feels more impulsive than it used to. The deep knowing and just feeling something is right or meant for me is still there, it’s just that the decisions or right action come much faster. Maybe it’s just that the voices can’t get in there with scary stall tactics so much anymore. Who knows? This Listening to Life I’m talking about has much the same feel it had when I was first out on my own as a young adult and “knew” a lot less. Only now, it is coupled with an added depth and flavor of what it is like to get back to that and know how lucky you are and how right it feels to look at Life that way. It’s a lovely way to Live, to just Know that All will be well and feel that anything is possible, not because I’m fresh and fearless, but because I curiously crave the unfamiliar and have walked with fear in so many ways that the ridiculousness of it always brings me back to what I really Am…Love’s vessel.

Change is the only sure thing in Life. It can happen to us, or we can get in there and co-create the Change we are meant to. We can open to the world Life is trying to put before us. It is a delicate balance to let things be and to co-create what is meant or possible. Something may be whispering to you today. Some dot may connect for you that shows you how the Universe has been trying to point you towards something. You Know what you need to Know today. You only need Listen and courageously balance being guided and taking right action. You know what to Live more of today.

I’m trying lots of new things lately. I’ve shared about some of them here and will share even more soon. It is fun to see the countless connections, seen and unseen, that have occurred to create the change we are seeking, accepting or creating. We do not walk alone. We are so deeply connected to one another it is amazing. Those of us trying to Listen and Be guided are working together in wonderful ways. I love finding ways to support those who are facing fears and really pushing themselves out of their comfort zone and even those that are just excitedly and curiously following a feeling. When we do that for another, we do it for ourselves. The momentum of connected moments, experiences and possibilities open up in our Lives and we find ourselves vibrating at a higher frequency, having better conversations, sharing more than separating, Loving more than judging and much more…we find ourselves truly Living. Over time, we become more…bit by bit…dot by dot. Cheers to connecting the dots together!

Here is one new thing I tried this year:

Gussy

His name is Gus. The decision to get him came quick, seemed impulsive and felt absolutely right. Silly thoughts tried to make me take my time, do more research, wait until the “right time”…but, I didn’t listen. Thank goodness. He is ours. He was meant for us and we were meant for him. This is what he was doing right next to me while I wrote this; he’s a wonderful writing buddy. This little “new thing” of mine has blessed me and loved me in so many amazing ways this year. Thanks for being our perfect new thing Gus! We love you and we are so grateful for how you love us and the frequency of love and joy you always hold no matter where we are or what we are doing. Dogs are so much better at getting and giving the thing we all want and need the most…Love.

Sending you love and joy today and always!


This is dedicated to two special people in my life that are consciously creating change in their own lives and in turn, mine as well.

To Coach Steve:
Thank you for practicing what you preach and pushing yourself to become comfortable with being uncomfortable while you transition to a whole new way of doing the thing you have done so well for so many years. Thank you for blessing our lives and staying true to your pure intention of helping develop good people who play great tennis AND have a whole lot of fun doing it. Many blessings are coming your way.

To Siri:
Thank you for sharing your heart so openly with me over the years; I love knowing your new passions and watching as you let yourself be guided to new things. I am so grateful for how our timing has always lined up perfectly with each other over the last few decades. I love the way we support each other with our tiniest wishes, biggest dreams, terrific tangents and even our silly thoughts while loving all things in each other…the beautiful and the messy. You are going to heal so many and bless the world in so many ways. Grateful to be your soul-sister! XO

What’cha Doin? or What are YOU DOING?

Life is guiding you, nudging you and loving you in the direction of  your highest calling, most joyful Being and most authentic self that will serve to create absolute miracles, abundant blessings and wildly inexplicable Love at all times. It may not always appear that way, but it IS always so.

“You don’t have to be great to get started, but you have to get started to be great.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

“If you’re not making mistakes, then you’re not doing anything. I’m positive that a doer makes mistakes.” —John Wooden

Whatever happened or seemed to have happened in your experiences today, yesterday, the day before that or any other day you can recall, happened or at least appeared that way to you for a reason. Life is showing you something. Always. Believe it or not, the stuff that brings you the most joy or feels the best is where Life is speaking the loudest to you. We are meant for joy. We Are Love. We can do our most good and become our truest most authentic selves by following those natural states. May we listen well and by doing so, Love completely!

Beyond the messages we receive is a deep connectedness that allows them to happen at just the right moment in just the right way and sets them up days, months, years, even eons prior to allow the one you were blessed with today. The way the dots connect in our lives and the complex web of blessings that are continuously lining up for us is truly miraculous and beyond my reach in words to explain. I don’t “feel” this to be true. I am sure of it. You are too, or at the very least, you can be quite soon, if you take the time and effort to listen, watch, be amazed and therefore blessed at any and all times throughout your days.

Letting go of the labels and convenient category assignments (good, bad, awful, amazing) we so badly want to apply to every occurrence will guide us to much more of Life. Let us let go, listen and Live.

Sometimes trying something scary, facing a fear or quieting the cynic telling you it’s not possible is necessary to allow you to even more of everything you are meant for. You may have been listening well and following along in the way that makes you the most comfortable. You may even feel you have stepped out and tried harder, newer, scarier things…there is always more to push for, more to push through, more you can do, more you can be, more waiting for you. You already are Everything. The Universe is trying to help you see it, feel it and Be it.

Tomorrow, I’m starting a new course of sorts that plopped into my lap to help me “ignite the vision” in my life. There are so many ways the voice in my head said it’s silly or not the right time or that I don’t have enough time. Oh well, too bad, I’m going for it anyway. I have been listening and following along in my own comfortable and even sometimes uncomfortable ways for quite some time. I try to challenge myself in new ways as I go. I do that well enough. I know I can do it better. Go for more. Believe in more. Push myself. My Life can only become that which I can envision and create. I truly feel that I have a message to share and I want to inspire many and myself in countless ways as I go. I am up to new and exciting ways of doing things. I can couple a new learning or course opportunity with the deep internal listening I always believe to be of the utmost importance in our lives.

The opportunity I have committed to could only have come to me through the dots connecting in seven thousand or so ways that I can see and even more that are invisible. 🙂 I know if I don’t listen to this whisper from the Universe (seven thousand connections preceding it type of whisper), then soon it will become a scream, then a pounding over the head before I know it. Wish me luck as I push myself for more and learn the best way for me to be able to share with others in a larger way while staying true to Me. In many ways I definitely don’t “need” to follow this path. My life is great and would be seemingly “fine” without it. However, the way I am made, the way I hear my soul speak and the way I yearn to become All I am meant to be means I do need to do it…but in the best, most authentic, most trustworthy and powerful way. It is a true need, born not of desperation, but of purpose, meaning and a true desire to be the best Me I can Be. The same can be said for us All; we only need to listen well to hear it, listen closer to Know it and be guided from the depths of our soul within and around us to Live it.

Wishing you the courage to go for what the Universe is nudging and loving you towards these days. Hoping we all embrace the truth that joy really is our natural state. Knowing all these things to be true and more. Grateful to share with you here. Sending love and joy to as many of you as I can imagine.

Nice to Meet You and Me

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                               -Hafiz

Whenever I go out and feel alive as I share my true energy and spirit openly, I love, like and enjoy whatever and whomever I come into contact with!

I give and receive back exactly what I put out. I meet ME in the world. We meet ourselves again and again in everything we encounter.

If it ever seems as though I meet someone or something that is anything less than pleasant, I must shine brighter to receive any light back. There is abundant light within. I can shine light on everything I see and it will shine back on me.

It’s nice to meet you and me.

Sending love and joy…hopefully everywhere I go and in every thought I create! If I don’t send enough, what reflects back to me will show me the opportunity to send more.

Always give what you think you lack.

Smile!

Your Truth

YOU Decide!

Truth has no path, and that is the beauty of truth, it is living.

Krishnamurti

I’ve been hanging out with ‘me’ for quite some time now — in fact, as long as I can remember :-). However, what that feels like and what it means to me has changed, and continues to change, in a myriad of ways across the time I might call my own here. As I look back, I can remember countless small moments I decided to change this or that and plenty of huge “aha” moments that guided me towards something much larger than myself. Of course, there were also those times I wished I could do or be something and didn’t quite know how. Until we know how to follow the signs and accept the blessings that await our reception, we aren’t truly Living.

Never under any circumstances ask “how.”

When you use the word “how” you really want someone to
tell you what to do,

some guide, some system, someone to lead you by the hand so that you
lose your freedom,

your capacity to observe, your own activities, your own thoughts,
your own way of life.

Krishnamurti

We Know much more than we think about anything worth Knowing. There is never anything we cannot answer from within. In this busy day and age it is easy to let others tell us how, browse the internet for the “answer” or just bump along from one distraction to the next. There is much more to Life than that. There are no instructions, only a constant and ever-present energy that wants to come forth and Live through us. It is patient at times and urgent at times; but, it is always there.

We must learn to trust that energy and listen to what it Knows and is constantly trying to show us. Once we can see, we then figure out how to go on listening and eventually how to experience it All. We are never stuck anywhere, only right where we belong to receive the messages meant for us. Each day we decide what we will do and who we will be. There are so many options. There is something deep within that pushes, pulls, nudges, guides and above all, Loves us enough to try to get our attention each and every day. If we can’t see, hear and feel it today, it will still be there tomorrow, every tomorrow until our last and still forevermore after that. We decide when we are ready to listen and “how” that will look, feel and be for us.

There are many ways to spend our time doing today; never one way, just our way. There is a lot of doing across a lifetime.

“ING”

Listening to the voice in the head.
Allowing the voice to push us around.
Suffering from the constant chatter.
Realizing that voice isn’t really us.

Shifting perspective to the one who hears the voice.
Quieting the voice to hear more from the listener.
Opening to the world around us.
Stumbling from time to time.

Accepting miracles beyond anything imaginable.
Sharing Love and joy.
Creating Blessings.
Being.

I would never want to suggest one way or another to go about your doing today. I would only hope and pray that we all, including myself, honor the Being that is within us all as we go about choosing, forgive ourselves when we fall short and love all that we see around us as we respect one another’s truth.

It is worth noting here that just because you are led to something doesn’t mean you will easily understand it at first. All Knowing unfolds at its own pace. All that is required of us is that we never cease trying to understand more than we do in our current now; simple healthy curiousity and trust in one’s self will do. I recently picked up a book that was a real “aha” for me many years ago. I thought it was the most difficult read ever back then. Much of it I couldn’t really understand, but I stuck with the instinct that it was True and in my hands at the perfect time for me. I stumbled through that first read, doing my best to take it all in and experience it from a deeper place. Sometimes I read a sentence ten times just to try to grasp it, all the while relishing in the unfamiliar waves of wisdom opening my mind in new ways. After that I read that book every couple of years. Each time it was fresh and familiar in different ways. As I skimmed through it just the other day, it read like the most simple thing in the world. It was comforting in so many ways; yet it struck me that the excitement it once held over the ways it challenged me to grasp my unknown was no longer on those pages. The unknown cannot stay so forever. While I miss how thrilling it once felt to read those words, I love how it feels to Know those words and find myself ready and willing to Live them more fully and find, read, hear or uncover new ones that make no sense at all to me…yet. 🙂

Everything I wrote here may seem strange, unfamiliar or nonsensical to some and easily understood and simply a collection of reminders to others. Both are true. But, if you read any or all of these words, then you know they are meant for you. Whether to remind you or provoke you to journey towards understanding more, they are in your life today or any day you find them at just the right time and for just the right reason…your reason…your truth.

Wishing us all the courage and ability to Know “how” to decide well what we will do and who we will Be today and always.

Your Life Is a Canvas

“We all need this quiet unfolding: the passion to paint what we dream, the honesty to only paint what we know, the courage to stop and live into what we don’t know, the humility to return years later, and the courage to use the blood of our life as the colors needed to finish the embrace. This is the unfolding of the human flower. Until the face of our soul and the face we show the world is one, the same.” —Mark Nepo, from
Seven Thousand Ways to Listen, Staying Close to What Is Sacred


Paint Your Life

Use strokes of ambition, truth, peace and love.
Cultivate the courage to create in new and unfamiliar ways.

Realize what you know.
Expand what you know.

Use colors that make your heart sing.
Sing the song of your heart.

Let your masterpiece make eyes sparkle, smiles spread and hearts warm.
Continue the painting, keep learning, add new dimensions.

Look from every perspective and listen with all your senses.
Love with all your heart.

Live open enough to grow.
Strive to live all that you know.

Ask for more.
Give thanks.

See the masterpiece each day.
Be the masterpiece in every way.

Be gentle with yourself along the way.
See the love around you.

Smile!
It’s your creation!

We truly are creating our lives each and every day with each moment and how we choose to live those moments. We can only create that which we can imagine for ourselves. We must stay alert and be open to the wisdom that wants to guide us to all there is to imagine. There is always much more to imagine.

Wherever we place our attention, allow our thoughts to take us or have our minds rest, will surely become our experience. Imagine all that you can in ever-expanding ways and make it so!

As I lean back and look at the larger picture of my life thus far, it is obvious how it works. Much of it happened without me knowing it. Now that I know it, what will I paint? It will be so much fun to Live the question!

Wishing you love, joy and the courage to show the world your soul face.

NOTE: I’m returning after a bit of a break. I am so happy to be back. 🙂 For anyone interested, I’ve updated the “About” and “My Story” pages for more information about that.

Living The Questions of Your Life

‘Instead of asking, “What do I want from life?”, a more powerful question is, “What does life want from me?’ —Eckhart Tolle

It is a miracle to be here.  We are all here to do something.  We are all shaped by our experiences.  Every experience is meaningful.  We become who we are meant to be so we may bring what we are meant to bring to this world.  We are connected to Everything; there is no-one and no-thing we are not connected to.  Our choices, intentions, interactions and energies ripple out to others and come back to us.  Once we are aware of all this happening, synchronicities abound that connect us to more of ourselves while enhancing others’ ability to do the same.  The Universe/God works perfectly in assisting all of this, but once we are aware of it, we co-create with Life.  This all happens, not by figuring out the answers to life, but by asking and living the right questions.  We all have specific questions we are working with at any given time to assist us along the way.

To live a question, we must acknowledge and accept that we don’t know the answer.  We are then in the unknown.  The unknown is where we can experience more of life.  We must open to the present and live each experience fully to get from it what we are meant to.  In this way, we embrace the art of not labeling situations and accepting that all things are unfolding as they should no matter what the details appear to be.  We widen our perspective.  We no longer need to declare if things are good or bad.  We just flow with the circumstances and try to hear what life is saying to us and what question it is presenting for us.  We let go of seeking the answers as we flow with the questions.  Seeking answers requires future and creates the illusion that we will be somehow better or more complete once we have them.  This can only create suffering as we long for a moment other than the one we are in.  We receive only the answers we are ready for and they change over time and circumstance.  The Divine joy and love is in the questions and allowing them to flow through you at the perfect time for you.

Once we know how to live the questions, we can dwell in peace that has tinges of fearless excitement within.  We won’t sit idly by and simply watch everything, we will live authentically with clarity and purpose as we ground our actions in our true essence.  Life will show us how to do this if we can only listen.

Watch the synchronicity in your life.  Watch the dots connect.  Notice what you are meant to receive from each person you come into contact with.  Notice what you can give back in return.  Be with nature in a way that fills your energy to assist your higher frequency vibration.  Watch your conversations.  Notice the books that appear at just the right time.  Notice Divine energy assisting you.  Be kind to yourself.  Forget trying to know and embrace living the unknown.  See the beauty all around.  BE nature instead of in nature.  Listen with all your heart.  You can function this way always, you don’t have to return to surviving and struggling all the time.  Peace can envelope you as you live your questions and evolve to the next, never rushing or resisting, just living in the present.

Lean back and look at the whole of your life.  See how it has all connected in meaningful ways to shape you into who you are now.  See all the ways that Life has provided for you.  Let that feeling embrace you.  I call it a Universe hug and I believe that the more you can feel those hugs, the more frequently you receive them.  We all need hugs.  Feel that hug from the Universe and love and embrace who you are now without judging how you got here or where you should be instead.  Just love you now and connect to everything around you as you expand and fill up with peace.

Living the unknown and loving the questions, the “little me” in us quiets down and the larger “I” that is connected to all things Lives.  It is a Divine paradox to realize that the only true knowing is found in living peacefully in the Unknown.  The question IS the knowing.  Living the question is living what you know.

Today I pray to be still and live the question of my heart.  I pray to gratefully and peacefully abide in the joy of connectedness to All.  I pray to remember this message as I live the moments of my day.

I am sending you love!  May you hear your question and feel the joy of living authentically with it.

The Gift of Authenticity

Years ago I had what seemed at the time like a close friend.  We were spending a lot of time together in group settings and with our children and alone on occasion.  The thing was, you never knew what you were going to get with her.  Sometimes she was lovely and great company, sometimes she was rowdy and a lot of fun, sometimes she was down right rude and hard to get along with, sometimes she seemed to have a wall up to create distance and make herself appear to be something (I’m still not sure what it was).  One day when we were together, she was having a bad day and really let her guard down and spoke from her heart.  I got to see this open and genuine side to her.  It was a bit of a relief and very refreshing.  I can’t remember exactly how I worded it, but I told her on the spot how much I liked her when she was just really being honest and open and sharing how she was really feeling that day.  She quickly responded, saying “Well, it’s not practical for me to come with my ‘woe is me’ story every day.”  She quickly returned to her somewhat closed up protective persona.

I let this friendship slip away.  That wouldn’t happen today.  That friendship taught me a lot throughout the years.  I now know that you can only see in others what you have in yourself.  Even as I recalled my experience of her above, it didn’t seem real anymore.  I think I would now experience her in a completely different way.  I was choosing to experience her in that limited way.  I was not as far along on my own path of finding my authentic self.  Perhaps when we aren’t there authentically, we can’t feel others authenticity either and we don’t offer a space that welcomes it.

I used to think I was too open.  I would sometimes regret having shared too much with someone and have that sick feeling of regret.  I would then try to tell myself I wouldn’t share so much next time and that I would learn from that feeling…only to have it happen again soon.  I haven’t had that in a long time.  I didn’t become less open, I just found my way to more authenticity.  For that, I am truly grateful!  Recently someone meaning well and trying to give me helpful advice relating to my children’s activities told me to “keep my distance” with a particular group.  She had compelling reasons and was really trying to help me navigate a situation for my children.  Her advice seemed reasonable and she had much more experience in this arena than me…for a minute I thought I might be able to do what she was suggesting.  It didn’t work.  I figured out very quickly that I am just not a “keep your distance” kind of person.  If I am there, I am open.  For me to try to create distance would stop the flow of life and I want to experience that flow and whatever it may bring.  When you are completely authentic and present (or at least as present as you are able to be), the interaction will be what it is meant to be and the fear of over-sharing can drop away.

Authenticity comes slowly over time (like most wondrous gifts).  Without knowing it, I have been working at it for years.  As a child, I was so afraid of everything.  Even butterflies.  I made many choices out of fear of what others might think or to do what I thought I was supposed to do.  It is remarkable how little what I really wanted or felt meant to me.  I think it is sad to spend time walking around with masks on trying to protect ourselves from something…but really, just keeping ourselves from living.  I want everyone to know how amazing it feels to truly stand in your own authenticity.  It is such a relief to ourselves and to others who spend time with us.  It allows us to make brave choices that align with our purpose and to truly grab hold of this life and live it.

It is a beautiful thing to be so “you” everywhere you go.  Sometimes I am shocked at how different it feels these days to be authentically me.  Sometimes the things that bring me the most joy surprise me so.  Many things have changed slowly over time and I have found the authentic me to be much more than I thought as I have learned to chart my own course and make authentic choices for my life.  Whatever it is, whatever I am feeling, I am it…no pretense, no people pleasing, no mask…just me.  Sometimes I have it together and spread love and joy.  Sometimes I am a mess and it shows.  Whatever it is, it is authentic.  When it is a mess, it doesn’t last long…authenticity has a way of bringing us back to the only thing that truly exists…love.  It sort of wipes all the fake stuff out-of-the-way and brings more space for love.

We know in our hearts how important authenticity is.  We must work to find it and know it so well we live from that space in every choice, action, thought or word.  Once we can live in this way, we can work to expand it and watch it grow us into our true nature.  The Universe is authentic, it will meet us in that space and we will see our connectedness to everything and how we see the world will be transformed.

Sending you love and wishing you authenticity in everything you do and a reciprocal flow from everyone you meet!

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